Facts are cold, hard, and people generally don't like them.
They are not amenable to wishes, hopes, or dreams.
When I was young, a family friend told me something that I
resented at the time (1976), but that I have come to see the wisdom
of...by & by. He said that you must make reality your friend, or it
will automatically work against you.
I resented it at the time because it did not fit what I WANTED that
(1976) reality to be.
Of course he was right. Since 1976 I have disregarded his sage advice
only ONCE......that being the occasion when I voluntarily exposed my life
to this nightmarish reality called addiction.
The results were as predictable as they were horrific.
Was it Charles DeGaulle (?) who said:
"I am sometimes wrong in what I do, but seldom wrong in what I predict"
Reality is what it is. It cannot be denied, only temporarily evaded.
The addict was but a bit player. The full burden for the pain & suffering of
this unhappy adventure falls upon the fellow I see in the mirror.
I know it hurts, Valentina14. It hurts to go no contact, too.
But the second option hurts less-----over time.
I'd rather go eat a big piece of chocolate cake than go for my daily run.
(and anyone chiming in that it is more fun to run than eat is FULL OF BS!)
But I am an adult who knows the likely outcome of each decision.
And so are you.