I wasn't able to let go of my anger until I threw myself wholly into working only on myself and my own recovery. I was furious and outraged in my indignation right up until the very second that I let go. It was a turning point for me, and it had far reaching implications on all of the rest of my life - things that I didn't even realize were suffering as a result of my engagement in my family's ongoing dysfunction and addiction issues. My work got easier - it didn't change, but I had changed. My relationship with my healthy fiance got better - he didn't change, but I had changed. Going to the grocery store, waiting in line, the DMV,
everything... lightened up. I hadn't even realized how dim my worldview had become until the light came on.
I'm still a work in progress, we all are, but that initial release was the turning point. Keep working on yourself, keep focusing on yourself and what's best for you, your happiness, and your health. You can't make him better, or make him make good decisions, but you can choose to make yourself better independent of his choices. Keep posting here!
