Working on detachment
My RAH moved out at my request earlier in Aug. I also filed for legal separation 8/2 and he is cooperating. Our future is still a possibility but I just dont know right now. I need time.
Now I am working on detachment which is HARD. I see him , text him, talk to him every day still. mostly about the kids. Being together for 13 years and 3 kids is hard to just stop communication. Which is ironic because we have not communicated well for the entire marriage.
Things I have done to detach:
Stopped opening his mail! I just leave it for him.
Don't pay any bills that are just his, like medical bills and credit card.
Don't do any laundry that may still be around my house.
Don't make or offer him food.
Stopped refilling his prescriptions and reminding him to do things.
I finally realized I was enabling and have been very co-dependent.
What have you done to detach?