Tuffgirl,
Thanks those are some good pointers.
But again, I just don't think this is codependency as much as it is a communication issue. Codependency, in my opinion, would have looked like you actually placating this woman in order to not hurt her feelings.
I agree that this is a communication issue, behind the scenes some of my codependent characteristics are at a play. Things like not being able to be upfront because of not wanting to deal with fallout and what not. In other words, me being a codie is what has lead me to not even think before I reacted in that fashion.
Instead you protected your own boundaries and your own comfort level. Make sense?
Sounds like I'm on the right track, just need to execute better. One thing I do see is it shouldn't have to take that kind of behavior to make me want to guard my boundaries. If it hadn't been so severe in my mind, I would have been caught up in the pleasing part.