I cannot speak for you, but I told my significant other that the only way this is going to work is if she comes up to my level. For I absolutely refuse to associate myself with people that drink. I certainly wouldn't date, let alone purposely choose to be around someone that smoked or did drugs of any kind. The downside is that this narrows the field considerably, which is a good thing in my opinion.
“The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state...Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.”
James Allen, As a Man Thinketh
Hope this helps
