it's the similar step 8 as in al anon and it's about making a list of those we harmed and being willing to make amends. step 9 is making direct amends.
if he were truly in AA, he would drop the BS he's feeding his daughter, for her sake.
spirituality is about living a life where we make others feel good and by being useful and helpful to others, not to ourselves.
hugs to you.
stay strong!!!!!!!!