Welcome to SR, Elis. I'm sorry you've had to find us, but I'm glad you're here.
Originally Posted by
Elis 
Today, I received a text message saying "step 8 is admitting to people that you have hurt them. I am sorry. Our daughter is my higher power".
This angers me beyond all reason. Your husband does have a higher power, but your daughter is NOT it. Putting the burden of his sobriety on an innocent child is wrong in so many ways. I grew up thinking that if I just acted perfect, got perfect grades, tiptoed around my A mother, that she wouldn't drink anymore. It doesn't work like that. Anyone can find information about the 12 steps, whether or not they ever set foot in the halls of AA. But reading what I have here, I'm not likely to think he's working a real recovery. I would follow the plan as it is now and see what happens. As is often said here, more will be revealed. If he is really working recovery, it will show itself in time.