Originally Posted by
LaylaB 
Thank you everyone for all of the support. I actually tried talking to him about last night. But he only denied it and said the kids are lying even though the proof was in my hands. I know Ive always been a little to trusting and will to give "the benefit of the doubt" And well frankly that is just making me all the more confused. Am I stupid to just let it go and hope things turn out alright? Even IF I have a sinking suspicion that SOMETHING is going on?
Layla--of course he denied it. This is what alcoholics do; it's the nature of the beast. Please do NOT "just let it go and hope things turn out alright", especially since there are kids involved.
I would second the suggestions to head over to the "Family and Friends" section of the forum. There, you'll learn a lot about what you can expect in the future if you DO "let it go." There are a bunch of stickied threads at the top of that page; if you have time, try to gradually read thru them. You'll learn an awful lot that way.
I would also very strongly suggest checking into Alanon. Here's a link to help you find a meeting.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ Alanon can be a great source of both education and support for you. I hope you get to some meetings as soon as possible (many have child care available at the meeting, if that's an issue for you).
Welcome to SR, and please, for your own sake and that of your children, keep your eyes open and learn what you are up against. "Hoping for the best" w/no other action taken is almost bound to have a bad ending in these situations....