Hi, NorCaliGal--thanks for the update. Congratulations on your 28 days of sobriety (or actually 29 now, right?) That's a great achievement! It's no small feat to deal w/your own alcoholism while involved w/an actively drinking A also.
It sounds to me like you have your priorities and actions straight, since you say you won't be around him if he's drinking and you refuse to let his behavior impact your sobriety.
The lying thing--man, can I relate to that. I'm sorry you're experiencing that too. I guess maybe he didn't feel a need to lie to you when you were both active A's but now it's different? If there is anything good to come of the fact of your own problem of alcoholism, maybe it'll be that you won't be hooked into the BS as badly as those of us who don't have that view from the inside....
I wish you continued sobriety, clarity in seeing what needs to be done, the strength to do it, and peace when you have done what you can, whatever it turns out to be.