Oh boy. This happened to me. I left for over a month in which I guess he just felt secure knowing ide be back once it was established I was fed up and not tolerating it anymore he said hed quit and he did quit!! This lasted a month and a half. What happened????
He went to see old friends saying hed be fine and I believed him. Next thing I know hes dissapearing again and showing up drunk. I did believe him which is crazy since I have zero trust in him but he was gaining trust back. Slowly but surely and I knew at the time he was serious.
Now i allowed myself to be sucked back into it.
Honestly ide stay at a distance and not get your hopes up. I tried not doing it but boy did I let my guard down. This relapse has lasted so far about 2 months soooo ide be cautious to believe anything without seeing it and it lasting much longer than a month or two.
1 month and a hakf is nothing in the years this has been going on.
Also he should want ot enough that it comes first and what you do or dont do doesnt mean anything compared to recovery.