there's a difference with genuinely wanting to help you and just rubbing it in your face. it's quite apparent that by just taking your h and bree's stuff that she is "rubbing it"! i would feel violated too if someone came in and picked thru my laundry and not because they were sorting it by wash temp. you have every right to do your laundry whenever it fits your schedule! it would be too bad if you had to lock your dirty laundry up so she couldn't get at it! UNBELIEVABLE.
i am saying a prayer right now for you!