Originally Posted by
DreamsofSerenity 
My AXBF threatened suicide, and I lost my sister to suicide (she was not an alcoholic). So I know that horrible helpless feeling you must be experiencing. It's devastating to watch someone you love in so much pain and not be able to do anything about it.
Hi McBuzz,
I am so sorry for the chaos you are living in.
Before I finally ended it with my ABF, I asked him, "If something happened to me, would you just drink yourself to death?" He answered YES. I was horrified and hung on for a while more thinking I was saving him.
Then I realized he was drinking himself to death, regardless. And I had a front row seat. I finally told him I loved him too much to watch, and let him go.
I hope things turn out ok for you and your wife. I second the others - please get all the help you can for YOU, and let the professionals take care of HER.
SQ