Originally Posted by
dwtbd 
Both ways of looking at it are really nothing more than individually manufactured mindsets , I choose the one that gives the thinking 'me' the power. In the end it really is whatever works for anyone, I just think one is easier and more freeing.
What works works but I tried for decades to give the 'me' the power and it failed. Time and time again. But if it works for you then excellent. I have just had to concede that I am not strong enough to deal with it on my own.