Originally Posted by
PandaPanda 
Mainly at this point I am not sure if I need to see a doctor before quitting. I REALLY do not want to do that as I have seen the same doctor since I was young. I know that is the CYA/safe thing to say, but is it really necessary? I have never had shakes/tremors/hallucinations or anything of the sort on the few days I dont drink. Hungover, today, I have quite a bit of brain fog, anxiety, and dizziness which is normal for me.
If having "brain fog, anxiety, and dizziness" is "normal" for you, then you're already in too deep. You and your wife are also having panic attacks, and your focus and motivation at work is suffering.
It's generally not a good idea to wait until withdrawal symptoms are fully disabling before getting help.