Panda panda, you are right, you do have a problem, it is brave of you to acknowledge it and coming here is a first step. It is possible you could stop drinking without suffering serious withdrawals, but I believe seeing your doctor is the way to go. I feel you need to put this concern out there, and seek advice from a health professional. It will be hard, quitting whilst your wife still drinks, but there are many here doing just that and if she sees you getting your life back on track, it may give her the impetus to try too. Have you considered AA? We have all been in your shoes, some of us not that long ago, so look on the 'class of August 2013 ' thread for some other newly recovering members. I wish you luck my friend