Originally Posted by
Springs 
No advice, just commiserating - I have no clue if my RAH is drinking. And I had no clue he was drinking most of the time and I've realized I'll never be able to tell. For me it is a big part of why our future is uncertain even if he stays active in recovery b/c I don't know if I'll be able to trust him.
Couldn't have said it any better. I was ALWAYS shocked when I finally figured out xyz was happening because he was drunk. You would think after 17 years I would have figured it out.