Thewill - You are NOT a lost cause. You have taken the first step by reaching out for help and that takes great courage. You are not alone! I drank for over 30 years and if I can do it - so can you. You are far stronger than you realize. Sobriety must be worked on daily. Having a support network is essential. You have one here and may consider availing yourself to any and all help that you can get (AA, etc.) You are fortunate that you have a wife that doesn't drink that can lend support. Believe in yourself and it is possible.