trixie, I think ZenMe identified it---you desire to be heard and have your feelings validated.
Isn't that a normal desire to have? I think so. I understand the feeling completely.
The problem is--wanting a normal healthy response from a person who is not willing or even able. Like the saying: "Going to the hardware store for a loaf of bread". It puts us in line for certain disappointment and heartache.
Look at it this way: He is missing out on a good thing. But, you aren't! And, you deserve better.
dandylion