This too will be my very first post ... But I feel the need to share this .... I got a job (part time) 2yrs ago. I had stayed home for the last 13yrs raising my children. I am still married to an active AH. My job SAVED my life!! To be removed from the dysfunction, drama, and down right suffocating situation at home was the BEST thing I have done for myself. I am pretty numb most days, but those hours at work make me feel GREAT. To focus on something other than my ongoing nightmare was a huge blessing I had no clue I needed.