Thanks so much Impurrfect and Linnie. I know you are both right on your views of this topic. Its really more of a family issue here. I have a lot of work ahead of me in dealing with this. But thanks so much for your advice. Its hard, and there has to be a lot of changes to come. I'm working on it. And I really agree with you Linnie, they had these kids, they need 2 step up and take responsibility for them. How I so wished I was just Grandma. Coming 2 visit, and do all the normal things grandparents do with the kids. Instead of being the major caregiver. I do believe tho that God put this on me for a reason. I'm not doing so well with it, but I still believe it will all work out ok, if I can muddle thru, and make some positive changes happen here. I know I've done the best I can, even tho if affects me so. Thanks so much for responding.