So here I am again at this question/ crossroad. I have my grown son and his girlfrnd living here, on and off , mostly on now for the last 4 years. 4 grandkids in the picture,and that's the only reason they are still here. My son works, she doesn't or won't. Its really difficult, as they have different ideas on parenting skills, or differnt ideas on jst about anything I suggest or ask of them. The kids are bad. They have torn up my house, don't listen to me at all, and its because of how they raise them. I've talked, pleaded, threatened, fought, avoided, begged, left for some time, all in hopes of a change. I see no light at the end. I do see myself as an enabler in a way, but I only let them live here, because honestly they have nowhere else to go. And I really don't know w
hat else to do. I have suggested housing options, which they always say they can't afford. The truth is they are my family, but are driving me crazy! I would do anything for the kids, they are such a big part of my life. I care so much, but this , them being here so long is really putting a strain on me, in many ways, and my marriage as well. It doesn't seem 2 affect my hub the same way tho. So, just needed to get that out there, and am I really helping this situation at all? Or am I really just an enabler? I see both sides of the coin, but I'm just doing what I feel is best for all, the kids being my primary concern. I have tried to view this as a blessing, because I am blessed to have them , but a lot of times it really bothers me, the way they are. The parents as well. I just wish they could and should be self sufficient. I would appreciate any comments or suggestions no matter what you have to say. I've been told b4 on this forum, I'm the problem here. I just can't honestly drive them out to the curb tho. And they don't seem 2 want to leave. Thanks for listening.