keep focusing on the similarities you have to the people in those AA groups instead of the differences. leave your hangups at the door and go into those rooms with honesty and humility. so what you're husband's well known around town? that doesn't mean diddly squat in AA. you can be the most well known socialite in the town but if you come to AA with honesty, humility and willingness, you're just another welcome member of the group. your status outside of AA is a bigger deal to you than to anyone else. you will find that the old, grizzled, chain smoking guy with 30+ years of sobriety is just as honored and respected at the people with just a couple of years or a few months. when we walk through those doors, we should leave our baggage right there and focus on what's important. staying sober.