Over time it gets easier to detach.......I know my XAH has led a pretty sad life. Do I care? I would say yes....I care in the same manner that I care about people who are suffering all over the world due to one thing or another. But I stopped feeling that icky feeling in my gut a very long time ago. I stopped obsessing.
It is hard. Very hard. It's ok to tell people that you know they mean well when they give you updates but that it's just too upsetting to hear. Most people will stop......and if they don't.......it's ok to avoid them for a while.
Keep taking care of you.
gentle hugs
ke