I think this is a great topic and thank Allforcnm for posting it and to all who have responded. I too have struggled with how to deal with my son since he has been in recovery. I've sort of adopted the same strategy as Fedupbeyondall who stated: just act like the addiction doesn't exist. I don't want my son to think he is special because he has addiction issues or think he will be treated any differently than his non addict brother or sister. I don't congratulate him for bring able to make rent or for working or anything along those lines. When I do things for him, like inviting him over for dinner or giving him baseball tickets I've got for free, he knows his siblings have also been extended the same. And before I say or do anything, I always ask myself would I handle whatever in the same fashion with his brother or sister. If the answer is no, I don't do it.