allforcnm, thank you for posting this. I also appreciate much of the commentary as well. It sort of rounds out the picture of what the article is lacking. I have had a hard time deciphering the difference between loving and supporting and enabling and at this point have just cut off ABF, but I was almost even afraid to tell him I loved him the first time I spoke to him after his detox because I didn't want to give him false hope, thinking he could come right home.
I understand that everyone's situation is unique and what works for you may not work for me and vice-versa.
Kindeyes - a question for you: When your son was ready to climb out, what did your rope consist of?