Caring about and staying connected in a helping way with someone dealing with substances is not only helpful, it’s one of the most powerful motivators for change.
I think I agreed with that article up to this point.
This was a motivator for change...for me! Staying connected to my son and his addiction almost cost me my life. I think we each need to look at our own situation and decide what is best for ourselves...regardless of if it is best for our addicted loved one.
I believe enabling is "doing for them what they can and should be doing for themselves". Encouraging positive actions, sure. Cheering them on when they do positive things? Indeed. Paying a price, emotionally, financially, or physically, that is harmful to us? Not on your life.
Sometimes staying is the answer. Sometimes leaving is. The decision should be based on what is helpful, healthy and wise for us. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is to let them figure it out all by themselves and pay the consequences for their mistakes.
Just my thoughts on a tricky topic.
Hugs