I agree Dandilion. I know you are right. I just would have appreciated some insight in his condition, what to expect and also someone to help me know what healthy behavior I should do so that I don't make the situation worse. He has had this time away in this bubble, learning how to be healthy. I have had to try and find sources and learn on my own to be healthy while all of life stresses are thrown at me to deal with by myself. I'm not bitter, or upset. It is what it is. But I would appreciate some guidance to help me understand all of this also. But everyone is right. This is my "stuff" and I need to worry about me and take care of me. His job took care of him and I can no longer worry about anyone or anything but my "stuff". I guess become the self centered, self absorbed, disengaged, distanced person that all codependents try and get away from.