Sister
I have a bad relationship with my sister.
As long as I can remember, I didn't like her, and I still don't really care for her.
I saw her recently, and seeing through newly sober eyes,(she lives far away, I see her yearly, maybe)
It occurs to me that many of the dysfunctional ways we relate to each other is due to growing up in a dysfunctional home with our folks setting us up to not get along.
Has anyone else dealt with this?
Because its my sister, it's the one relationship I feel guilty about walking away from. I have a sense of obligation, since we only have each other. I was raised that I should care about her, but honestly I can't stand her personality, and not to take anyone else's inventory, but she's working on a pretty good habit of her own.
She's actively drinking, daily, a lot.
She's constantly offended, angry, argumentative.
She has real issues with her daughter, who she demands everyone treat like a princess, she is in fact spoiled rotten and a problem, now college age.
I basically grin and bear it when she's around. Fortunately I only see her once, twice a year, but even that is really unpleasant.
I'd love to hear thoughts, and what others have done with this.