Hi SuzieB
I have no experience to share in this - except from the other side - as long as people let me walk all over them and their rules, I did.
I can't tell you what to do....but I do think it's important to have strong boundaries, to stick to them, to make it clear to your 43 yo son that decisions have consequences.
Boundaries are for his benefit as much as yours and vice versa.
Maybe others here can help you work out what is best in this case.
I encourage you to also check out our Family and Friends forum too
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