Originally Posted by EmmaFern

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. When I first me him, he was a serious alcoholic. He would drink almost every single night. After a year or so, I told him that I was tired of him drinking and if he wasn't willing to get some help, I was going to walk away. Dec. 31st 2011, he made his New Year's Resolution to quit drinking. I was very doubtful that he would follow through with his goal because he refused to join a program like AA or any type of alcoholic "self help" or support group.

It was a struggle the first few months, he slowly started drinking less and less. It was very difficult for me because he was tired and in a bad mood for months, but I stood behind his decision and he too stuck with it. Over the next year, he would only slip up once a month or so. He really has come a LONG way since I first met him and he is still trying to this day.

My question is, when is someone considered a recovering alcoholic. He hardly ever drinks anymore and when he does, it's maybe once every month or two, because he is hanging with his guys and wants to relax. I know he wants to relax, but I feel like he should not drink at all. I don't want to see him return to the point he was once at. He gets upset with me when I get after him for having a beer, but I truly want whats best for him.

Is it bad if he has a beer every month or so? If you're a 'recovering' alcoholic, you should not drink at all right?


Thanks for the help