I understand all too well what you are going through. I am so sorry. But I applaud you for getting away from this situation before you made a commitment of marriage. Your children deserve to witness an happy healthy relationship between a man and a woman. I wasn't as smart as you. I kept thinking it would change and get better. I kept thinking my ah would be the man he was meant to be. And I made every excuse in the book as to why he was lying, drinking and abusive. And now it is too late. I am not able to get out of this situation and my children have learned all of the wrong messages about marriage, love how a man treats a woman. So please look forward and never look back. You are making the best decision of your life by getting away from her now. Your children will thank you for it!!! You are stronger than you know!