Your stronger than I was Wes, I argued, pled and attempted to educate my ExAH and might still be doing it if he hadn't left me for another drunk who didn't harass him. We were together for most of my 20's; I was in mid-30's (with no kids though I desperately wanted them) when he left and thought my life would never be what I'd hoped for. Turns out the best years were in front of me. I loved my ex, moving on from him broke my heart, but I can't believe how much better my life got once the crazy-making was behind me. You're saving yourself, maybe some day she'll do the same. My heart goes out to you.