Originally Posted by
OnawaMiniya 
Lillamy makes an important, important point. Raging control freaks KNOW when something is different. They are in tune with any changes in your personality because that's how they control you - by reading you and taking their control freak steps to nip that in the bud before they lose that control over you.
Don't let him see it in you. It's hard to act as usual if you are planning to leave, but it's important if you are fearful of his reaction.
Having a lightbulb moment
I didnt see my ah as controlling at all, but reading this post I am beginning to see that he is in a very subtle manipulative way. thank you for posting this, over the last few days he has KNOWN and has begun behaving even weirder.
I wish OP safety, and send hugs, support and understanding