Welcome Jane. You will find varied answers here for sure. Try to remember that getting sober and staying sober are 2 different things in my view. Staying sober for me is being comfortable in my skin and requires work, for some easier than others. My training ground is AA which has helped millions world wide. I appreciate face to face meetings where we understand each other and have phone lists of the members which people use for help. These forums are a help with lots of good people offering good advice. I would caution that this is the internet and there is miss information on the internet. I hope you continue on your sober path. BE WELL