My therapist said the same thing. Yesterday, I choose to stop paying for his cellphone contract. He gives me money and I pay the bills and organize everything so I had full access to everything on his phone. I think the phone disconnected at 6 am this morning. There is no signals coming from it anymore. I was enabling him by paying the bill and making myself crazy too. I am sure he will get another one but I won't be able to access it. I knew I wouldn't stop on my own, so I disconnected it. It feel relieved and burdened. How will I know he's lying? I was sleeping and eating with him right after using and had no clue. I asked my therapist this question and he couldn't answer it.