It is in the design, the addiction can not thrive without secrecy and will be protected at all cost … within every lie told and crazy story spun.
Yet his lies will never be as important as the ones you tell yourself.
Oh and when ... how ...
Well it all ends exactly when you allow it to. He didn't stop you from being happy, you did. He doesn't have control to do that, only you do. He didn't cause the view you have of yourself, you did, it is how you took the lack of attention...how you assigned it all.
I am sure this is very hard to understand but no one control's our feelings but us, and how we view ourselves might be an indication of where we need to find our own why's, not theirs.