Oh Lexie I know, and I know....that's why I've only been telling him what I planned to do with my own sobriety, not what I thought he should be doing to work on his. I've only said I'm worried about him and left it at that. I had my own stuff to work on. Yesterday when he said he needed help and that he was going to AA it was a complete surprise. A good surprise. Of course now he actually has to go.