Hey Newlywed...
My answer to your question... Is This What Marriage Is Like?
..is no... that's isn't what marriage is like. But it is what living with an addict is like.
I'm sorry you were enlightened after the fact... and I'm sorry you got tossed in the deep end so fast.... but... it's reality now.... ;o(
Understanding codependency and addiction is the only way to help oneself make the necessary decisions around allowing this sort of behavior in ones' life. If there is anything I have learned.... it's that I can't make someone live their life according to what I think is best for them.... all I can do is choose to do what is best for me....
I pray for strength for you.