Bluechair, I was guilty of driving my son crazy when he came home from rehab the first time, just like Lizwig. Actually, it started as soon as he entered rehab with daily letters and phone calls whenever I was allowed to call. When he came home, I was constantly doing surveillance.....asking questions and reminding him of what he needed to do....like he was a baby and couldn't fend for himself. I think if someone did that to me I would scream at them. The transition was much better after his second stint at rehab because instead of coming home he went to a sober living house. I learned to back off....thank you SR members...and things went much better. Slowly, I started to do things for myself and stayed out of his way. The bottom line here is that everyone is giving you the best advice by saying to take this time for you...to recover, to relax. Your husband is where he needs to be with people caring for him. You need to care for you. Wishing you peace.