Thanks, doggonecarl, focusing on the gratitude part for this current situation draws my focus away from the resentment. And, based on the other response that I just wrote, I guess my resentment goes a lot deeper than the current situation. But if I just focus on the current situation, you are absolutely right, I should just be grateful. At least her negativity isn't put on the kids. They are happy, cared for, loved, and having fun. Only my husband and I know that she isn't happy about it. So, yeah, I think I can follow that advice. Because you are definitely right, my resentments have often given me enough of an excuse to go back out and drink.