She refuses my help but lets me know she is upset. How do I manage this one?
I do not understand why my adult children do this either.
What I started to do, and I did not want to, was ask what they wanted from me.
I explained I was feeling helpless, and that is
not their responsibility,
that is how I am feeling.
Of course, I want to solve the problem, and if I do not have the money, (usually the issue) I feel guilty. (again my feeling, my responsibility)
Even though this bill is a monthly obligation, and like your daughter she knows what
Dad says and what happens are two different things.
But feel awful - I remember my AM not willing to help me and not willing to take me in at her age and I didn't have a problem - had to go live and depend on strangers.
Okay, Kassie, I think I do this too. I assume my daughter is struggling with
the same things I did. Your daughter will not have to depend on strangers,
she will have you. My daughter had to borrow for school, but she is doing
as little as possible, and is hanging in there with her small place with her
boyfriend right now.
Learning very good lessons I think.
If I can stay out of the way! (that's me I am talkin about.)
This may not be helpful at all, but I wanted to say I hear you.
Beth
What I noticed recently, if my daughter needs a few bucks (she says birth control
) she is more direct, and I can say no.
