I only visited my son once in jail and it was awful. He played me like a fine fiddle and I bailed him out...with a thousand tears and promises to do whatever I told him to do...and he lasted less than an hour on bail before he went to use.
I never again went to jail, or court, I didn't even accept calls from jail.
You don't have to do anything...why not take the day with your husband and go for a drive in the country. I guarantee you will both feel better than if you go to visit at jail. Maybe even stop for dinner along the way and enjoy the beauty of the day. WE don't have to go to jail with out kids, not even emotionally.
Hope you are wiser than I was, you'll be happier sooner if you are.
Hugs from a jailbird's mama's heart.