Wow, thank you all soooo much!
Some great points. I think I'll show this thread to his girlfriend too.
I do feel he is at least safe there. I just hope they keep him there at least a week. We could use the break.
Just in the last 2 months or so he said he was done but saying isn't enough. He found a therapist and has been going to him. He was doing (not saying) some good things. He does have an overwhelming amount of problems though. However, the therapist didn't think he needed inpatient treatment. We always thought he did and felt 2 months of just talking to him this therapist just didn't know the whole story. So after his arrest, his girlfriend talked to the therapist. Now the therapist is onboard with in patient rehab. I wanted to tell my son about this but what the heck, I can tell him when he gets out or calls.
So now I'm leaning towards not going.
I really appreciate all the insight you all have given me and some of the practical stuff. Yep, I'm sure he'll get a lawyer.
Kari