why should you let him spend your hard earned $$$ on vodka? you found the damage from the last 22 bottles he consumed in 10 days prior to the accident.
maybe you can just open a new account in your name only, have your pay deposited there so you know how much you have.
credit cards, separate the accounts, don't leave yourself wide open if possible. i am guessing the mortgage is in both names.
you can rant/rave at him, call him names, point out his selfishness, point out his lies to you....he is not listening, he does not hearing what you say...i think his addiction is past the point of you expecting him to care, the difference between right & wrong.
i never crossed this line myself, but came close...i can see it now, but not then.