(((((Jessica)))))
As a sober recovering alkie with many ODAATs let me say that what he is doing is "keeping" all the crud. That way he has excuses and people and places to blame.
You have stated he goes to no meetings, apparently is not working a program of any kind to change himself.
Please, please, do not beat yourself up IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. I am totally amazed to this day, how we alkies take hostages and get the hostages to love us and then we can turn on them at a moments notice, for NO REASON.
Unfortunately, there really is nothing you can do for this man, HE MUST DO IT FOR HIMSELF. Set your boundries for you, ie not allowed in house when drinking, don't cook for him when he's drinking, do his laundry, make his excuses to his boss (if he still has one), etc etc etc.
Only you know if you need to end the relationship. Do what you need to do for you sweetie.
He will either "get it" eventually or he won't.
I have read your posts in the past, you are a strong person.
Please BE GOOD TO YOU, you certainly have earned it!!!!!!
Love and (((((to all))))),