I would like to add that my brother has realized that alcohol can stimulate great rage in him...which he fears may affect his marriage...among other things. He has never quite as strong an issue with the drink as I. He has successfully been able to keep a commitment to NEVER have more than 3 beers in a sitting for fear of that rage. He has kept that commitment for a few years now. It's not something I obviously could..so abstinence is my thing...but my point is, the non-alcoholic mind seems to be able to say "hey, if I do this bad stuff happens...so I won't do that anymore".