You've already started. There isn't a straight line for recovery. If you want concrete steps, I suggest you get an Al-Anon sponsor, and start working the individual steps, in order. They are in order for a reason.
Doing the Step work is something that many, many alcoholics and friends and family of alcoholics have found to be invaluable at cutting to the chase and providing a proven way of making your life better. The Steps are basically a blueprint for a good, happy life for ANYONE. If everyone in the world lived by those principles the world would be a better, happier place. But we can only change ourselves.
If you go to an Al-Anon meeting and find someone who has worked the Steps and "has what you want" then ask her if she is willing to sponsor you. Most people consider it an honor and a privilege to work with someone else. If that person can't for some reason, she may suggest someone else you could ask.