Originally Posted by
BlueChair 
I think you just help by being a positive influence, not getting too involved with his addiction issues, just letting him learn how to live and enjoy a relationship that is healthy, where you do healthy activities and things together. I mean just treat him like a boyfriend, and not like a sick boyfriend who needs help. You said he had been clean almost a year, so he is doing something right. Like any guy, if he isnt ready for more then the reasons are his own you know. Then you decide if what he can give fits in with what you want, or how long you want to wait and see you know.
Do you think nsa sex is a healthy activity? We were friends first and that came later, I worry if we keep having sex it might mess with his recovery. And as someone else pointed out, the sex is no longer nsa for me since I have feelings for him. I don't want him to feel like I'm coddling him because he's "sick" but I also don't want to downplay his accomplishments. Where is the middle?