Originally Posted by
NightingaleSynd 
I think I am codependent to a point but I genuinely just want to be there for him. I guess I just don't know how someone who has never been through addiction can help if at all. I do have romantic feelings for him so this may be why I'm trying to "save" him. I want what's best for myself naturally but I also want him safe and happy and drug free.
I think you just help by being a positive influence, not getting too involved with his addiction issues, just letting him learn how to live and enjoy a relationship that is healthy, where you do healthy activities and things together. I mean just treat him like a boyfriend, and not like a sick boyfriend who needs help. You said he had been clean almost a year, so he is doing something right. Like any guy, if he isnt ready for more then the reasons are his own you know. Then you decide if what he can give fits in with what you want, or how long you want to wait and see you know.