Do you think there's a possibility that being with someone who is always clean and sober could help him? I want to be there for him even if it's not in a romantic capacity
he stated that he is not interested or available for a relationship because he is putting his recovery first. respect that. don't second guess that of which you do not know. he deliberately kept much of himself from you over the years....no strings attached, remember? his addiction belonged to him, and he didn't drag you thru it. now his recovery belongs to him, and he has not asked you to be a part of it.
that is where you stand. you guys have had a deal. and the deal isn't changing. if he wanted more from you, he would have indicated so....he's been navigating his recovery for 11 months now and appears to be keeping it front and center. WITHOUT your influence or input. without making you a part of it. pretty much as he has the rest of his life.
no strings attached. that's the deal.